Mediation is shown to have better outcomes in the case of separation and divorce. However… and this is a big however, there are cases in which mediation is not going to be feasible. Take a look at the list below to determine if mediation could work for you:

Mediation is for you if:

• You both have a shared interest in amicability and staying “out of court”

• You are able to sit in a room together

• You do not have a history of violence or abuse in your relationship

• You have the ability to be honest and forthcoming with information

• You are both ready to move to the next step of your relationship breakdown into separation and or divorce

• You have a shared interest in child centred decisions and putting aside your own hurts to focus on positive outcomes

  When Mediation may not be for you:

If your relationship has been marked by violence, abuse, intimidation. severe personality disorders or manipulation, it may simply not be possible to pursue mediation. Abusers may also try to use the mediation process to further intimidate and manipulate. For particularly severe cases, the court process may be a better choice. In court, there is very little communication between the two sides, and it is not as easy for an abuser to intimidate or manipulate through lawyers and judges.